Fun Ceremony Extras For Your Perfect Wedding

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No two weddings are the same; they are planned to perfectly represent the two people who are committing themselves to each other. It’s a celebration of their love, of who they are, both individually and apart, and of the journey that has led them to this moment.

Compared to generations past, it’s not unusual for a couple to wait a few years after getting engaged, before getting married, rather than rushing into things. And this can be for a few reasons – they might want to buy a house or move in together first, they might need time to save for the wedding as over 60% of couples pay for the big day, rather than their parents which has been the tradition for years. It’s also because there’s no rush for them to get married. In the past, couples had to marry before they engaged in ‘marital relations’ – because god forbid they have a baby before the wedding!

Even though these practices have been becoming less strict since the 60s, with the invention of the pill, it really hasn’t been since the 90s that living with your partner for years before marriage, having kids, and even never marrying has become a social norm. Even now we are still fighting for the right to marry for same-sex couples.

There are many old-fashioned traditions that we cling to today, even though our modern sensibilities would think them absurd. The white wedding dress which was brought into fashion by Queen Victoria, symbolising her purity and the purity of her new court, has since been the main focal point of the wedding for many brides. Many TV shows have sprung up purely because of the importance placed on the dress. A lot of traditional vows include the term ‘to obey’ uttered only by the bride, which obviously harkens back to when women were considered property. As is the practice of having the father of the bride ‘give her away’ – it all began when women were property, and could be used almost like currency.

But with the couple planning their own wedding, and not their parents, with the more relaxed state in which they can create their big day, there is much more room for personal touches that you wouldn’t have found in weddings a few decades ago.

Ceremonies have become a place, not to just recite some vows and sign some paper, but to express how one person feels about the other, personal promises they want to make to the other person and create a unique and memorable moment for the two of them.

Here are some great ceremony ‘extras’ that could be perfect for your big day.

Vows

Traditional wedding vows are heavy on the religious side and are perfect for religious people. But for those who aren’t, unfortunately, a lot of registrars’ speeches are a bit flat and read by rote. You can easily add some personal love into this vital moment by writing your own vows. They can be singular to you as a couple – if one of you has an illness, promise to be there through every appointment, and to hold their hand during every bad day. If one of you serves in the army, vow to never go a day without calling, or writing if you can’t call. You can even add a fun one in their to make everyone laugh through their tears – like vowing to treat their one-eyed, vicious cat as your own.

Sand

There’s a beautiful ceremony that is quickly taking tract, which has you both pouring different coloured sand into a vase together, while reciting your vows or during a reading, and then displaying that vase as a reminder of the love you have, that perfect day, and the promises you made to each other. The Sandsational Sparkle sand ceremony kit comes in various styles, perfect for any wedding. It’s a fantastic, visual addition to the ceremony that people will love, and you get to treasure forever.

Handfasting

The origin of the phrase ‘tying the knot’, handfasting has its roots in Celtic and Paganism. The idea is to literally tie the hands of the couple together, in a show of unity and a visual representation of the two people becoming one. The tying takes place, usually, during the vows, or just after, and some couples – as was the original tradition – opt to stay bound through the wedding breakfast. They have to help eat other eat, and is an affirmation of their becoming one, and the fact that they will forever be looking after each other.

Planting

Another unity ceremony sweeping the marriage scene is the planting of a seed or tree. These are more popular in spring weddings for obvious reasons but are a beautiful way of representing their love which will grow over time. The idea, again, has a beginning in Paganism; although it wasn’t an official part of weddings, the couple would plant a garden together in their new home, and how well it grew was considered an omen on their life together. Obviously, this was because a bad garden meant less food for the couple, which could result in illness, lack of fertility and even starvation.

Time Capsule

If you’re unfamiliar with the idea, a time capsule is a box in which you place certain items significant to you at the time and bury it, or lock it, to be opened in a set amount of years. You can easily incorporate a type of capsule into your ceremony. Write a letter, or a series of letters to each other beforehand, and during the ceremony place them in a box. Each letter should have a time in which to be opened – you can set it for anniversaries, or other milestones. Or perhaps there’s one for the day you have your first marital fight or the day you lose a member of your family. You could even add your vows into the mix, to be the last letter opened.

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